All my friends are crazy about publicly declaring that they read hot books like the famous “Fifty Shades of Grey.” They borrow the texts, comment on them, buy them online and with that they believe they are the most transgressive women in the world. I laugh, because the more I make them loose, the better for the whole world: turned on women and, consequently, happy men.
But their liberation goes to waste when I tell them if they would actually do a scene like the one they read in its pages. If they were really starring in a game of domination… There they all looked at me with round, giant eyes and between jokes they let the fear that blocked them show through Seattle BDSM.
I don’t think the same as them… because I believe that all sexual play is valid in a stable couple who has talked about all these issues, that is, who has enough confidence to tell each other their fantasies, carry them out and continue respecting each other forever. In that context, domination and submission are welcome.
Of course, you have to know how to do it… because excesses in this case can bother one of the parties. But if you dream of being made love to brutally and having him be your master, then give free rein to your creativity and don’t feel ashamed for feeling things in such an unusual scenario… but one that many carry out behind closed doors.
Are you still afraid? Well, fear is a product of the uncertainty of not knowing what could happen. So it is best that you know the entire scenario. The game of domination and submission includes the mythical bondage (ties and immobilizations), spank (gentle whipping), fetishism, master-slave play and the use of erotic clothing and accessories. But don’t be scared! Because the rule of this entire game is that both feel pleasure, so spankings are never blows (for this reason they should not cause damage or pain) and the handcuffs or cloths with which they tie you should not squeeze or strangle your wrists, for example. .
Furthermore, the idea is that you change roles. Once you are the one in charge and another time it is him. And both must know each other’s limits and, obviously, respect them to the letter.
Play at being someone else, put on different makeup, dress very sexy and have an incredible time with your partner doing something absolutely different from your everyday life.
I recommend buying intimate garments that help you feel more sensual and uninhibited (I recommend the store No Me Olvides Lencería which is on Facebook). Complement with a mask, vibrators, a feather riding crop (in the Japi Jane store there are beautiful ones in different colors), high-heeled shoes… You can even complement your knowledge with appropriate readings such as “Wish me like you hate me”, by Venus O ‘Hara and Erika Lust, or “Dare with sadomasochism”, by Gala Fur.
The important thing is that you don’t play with someone you just met or with whom you don’t have enough relationship or trust. For the rest, don’t feel sorry for having different tastes from your peers, because you can be very feminine on your normal day, but be an authoritarian and sexy dominatrix in your bedroom. In the end, that’s what couples are about, being complicit even in these details. Luck.